XBox 360 is now online; son got cussed out.

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So we got the XBox360 online, and we were playing Madden Ten. My son, 10 years old, was playing online against another player. After the game was over, the other player sent my son a message saying "U ****ing suck!!!"

We don't speak that way in my house. I really despise people who talk that way to children. I know the other player didn't KNOW he was cussing out a child, but he should be more mindful just in case.

Is there a way of blocking incoming messages? (Other than my friends)??

If so, help a brother out?

Thanks
 
I'm having the same problem when my son is playing online and i dont think theres anyway to stop the messages.I just delete them hopefully a member can chime in and offer some tips.thanks,mike
 
I am not going to turn the thing back on unless there is a way of blocking strangers. I'll sell the console before I let it poison my kid.
 
I am not going to turn the thing back on unless there is a way of blocking strangers. I'll sell the console before I let it poison my kid.

I know exactly how you feel and thats why i only allow my to son to play online when i'm home sitting right next to him
 
There are lots of controls for online safety with Xbox Live. It sounds like the settings for "Child" would block messages from non-friends, and also block friend requests. Of course, using this might require setting up a different "account" for your kid, but Silver accounts are free.

Check out this link for more info:

http://support.xbox.com/en-us/pages/xbox-live/how-to/parental-control.aspx
 
When my son was younger I would let him play online without the headset. It's not the perfect solution but helps a little.
 
well heres 2 things with that. The headset being plugged in, theres no way to control how the other play speaks to him. Also the headset not being plugged in, sometimes there voice comes through the television which would be worse if not as bad.

You could mute the other player but sounds like a pita every time you wanna play a game. Check xbox settings there are definitely child settings but im not sure what they control, it might just be so they cant download without a password or something.
 
I am not going to turn the thing back on unless there is a way of blocking strangers. I'll sell the console before I let it poison my kid.

Your kid is gong to hear, learn and see that poison everywhere he goes no matter how hard you try to stop it.
 
Your kid is gong to hear, learn and see that poison everywhere he goes no matter how hard you try to stop it.

Which is a great reason to limit it as much as you can.

Cussing in a movie: Don't watch that movie
Cussing on XBOXLive: Change the controls, etc.
Cussing out in public: Explain that some people have bad vocabulary and that we don't use those words

Just because they're going to hear it eventually doesn't mean I need to invite it into my home.
 
well heres 2 things with that. The headset being plugged in, theres no way to control how the other play speaks to him. Also the headset not being plugged in, sometimes there voice comes through the television which would be worse if not as bad.

You could mute the other player but sounds like a pita every time you wanna play a game. Check xbox settings there are definitely child settings but im not sure what they control, it might just be so they cant download without a password or something.

Yeah, the whole situation kinda sucks for young kids due to the idiots of the world.

Your kid is gong to hear, learn and see that poison everywhere he goes no matter how hard you try to stop it.

I hear that too, I hate that it has to be that way in this world! That's why I personally try extra hard to instill the right morals and what not into my kids. I try to let them know that you have to disregard what a lot of people say and do and continue to the right thing at all times.


Not that anybody cares bout my little rant here....or that its relative to this thread. :)


Carry on.....
 
We don't have a headset. We just got a text message/XBox email type thing. Those are what I want to prevent.

So there's really no way to prevent people from emailing him when he's playing online? I find it very strange that Microsoft would market so many online games for kids, yet not do anything to protect them from internet predators.

So if someone wanted to, they could play the Spongebob game online, and send every kid that plays against them an f-bomb laden email and the kid just has to deal with it?

I'll do a little more research, and if this is the case, this little white appliance will be on Craigslist.
 
Well, you could ensure that your child is in the Family 'area' or whatever they call it - which I assume he is. You can also report those messages/users to Microsoft and they are pretty good about taking action. Lastly, you can block people after they do it - yeah, that doesn't help much, but at least you won't get the same people contacting him again and again.

In terms of the verbal language, you should also be able to make it habit to have him create a party and leave the chat option to "party chat." This will/should prevent him from hearing the conversations in game, and instead would only hear the chat going on between party attendees, which would just be himself.

Unfortunately, much like the internet, you can't totally prevent everything. If there's not a way to blanket turn off incoming messages, then there's really not much you can do other than to instruct him to not read messages from people he doesn't know.
 
We don't do the headset thing. I know better than that. It's those pesky email-type messages that concern me.

I blocked the user that sent us the nasty message, but that didn't help my son to un-see it. I've also read that Microsoft really won't do anything to a user unless they get a TON of complaints. These are Microsoft's customers. They really don't like banning their own paychecks.

I'm just shocked that Microsoft would not have a cure for this. I'm sure I'm not the only parent who is now going to cancel XBox Live just because it's for Adults Only.

I have a solution, and it seems very simple.

Make a setting: Receive incoming messages from Approved Friends Only? Yes/No.

There. Fixed. Microsoft would now get my money.
 
Yeah, I'm surprised there's not an option for that. Isn't there some "Family" account setup someplace that allows one account to manage accounts under it? If not, there really should be.

Regarding the headsets, I realize that, but as someone else said, some games don't require headsets for you (or your child) to hear what others say - instead, it will stream through the TV speakers. In that case, you can hear them, but they obviously cannot hear you. Now, this may only be in place in games like Call of Duty (ie: not in kid's games), but that I cannot be sure about.
 
In Madden 10, you can't hear anything.

In Forza Motorports, you can hear some garbled voices, like Charlie Brown's Teacher.

I looked in Family Settings, and you can restrict M(ature) games and Rated R movies, but nothing (that I can find) about XBox Live Messages.

I'm going to dig around a bit on Google, then I'm going to call Microsoft and ask them about it.
 
We don't do the headset thing. I know better than that. It's those pesky email-type messages that concern me.

I blocked the user that sent us the nasty message, but that didn't help my son to un-see it. I've also read that Microsoft really won't do anything to a user unless they get a TON of complaints. These are Microsoft's customers. They really don't like banning their own paychecks.

I'm just shocked that Microsoft would not have a cure for this. I'm sure I'm not the only parent who is now going to cancel XBox Live just because it's for Adults Only.

I have a solution, and it seems very simple.

Make a setting: Receive incoming messages from Approved Friends Only? Yes/No.

There. Fixed. Microsoft would now get my money.



uhhh, cant you just tell your kid not to read incoming messages?
 
He's 10 years old.

We also tell him not to sneak into the Christmas cookies. He's 10.

I don't want this to turn into a debate on my ability to be a good father. If I have to, I'll either sit with him each and every time he plays his XBox, or I'll cancel the XBox live and tell him he can't play his games with other kids. He has a "Cars Movie" (Lightning McQueen, Tow Mater, etc etc) game that some of the other kids in his class like to play. He wants to race against them online, but now he can't....until we find a way to make it safe.

I don't know. The more time I put into this, the less I think it's worth. I think it would be so much easier to sell the XBox and get him a pack of UNO Cards and some colored pencils.
 
Some people are worthless....

I called Microsoft, and they said you can lock the barn door after the horse escaped, but you can do NOTHING to prevent the horse from escaping. You can block a user AFTER they cyber-rape your child's mind, but you can't prevent them from doing so.

I called my friend on the telephone (old technology) and he showed me that if you go into your dashboard, and click your gamercard thing....then go to Security....you can click "CUSTOM"...then "CUSTOMIZE"...jump through 5 hoops, roll over and play dead....and then there is a setting that says "Only Allow Friends to Communicate with Me" or something similar.

I think we have it solved.

Microsoft should really train their phone reps. I was about ready to cancel XBox Live because their rep told me I had to deal with it...
 
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