My Daughter is 21!!

[Phetishboy]

I tried to be a little easier on them then my dad was on me, but it didnt work. I did so many things that didnt affect them. In today's times, the "belt" was outta the question, so we did everything from emptying their rooms to delaying Christmas (they woke up to NOTHING on Christmas morning). NOTHING phased them. I smacked my oldest in the ass when he was around 10 for something he did, and he just looked at me and said "Dont you hit me again" I was floored! No fear with either one of these kids. I wasnt soft on them. The good part is i keep reinforcing how to be a "good person" with them and it seems to have stuck, im very proud of their values and morales and I think they will turn out good later on.

I really feel that we don't understand the actual impact social media has had on their lives. None of their experiences are like ours were. School, girls, cars, dances, parties, sports, friends - nothing is really the same.

 

[FrizzleFried]

I really feel that we don't understand the actual impact social media has had on their lives. None of their experiences are like ours were. School, girls, cars, dances, parties, sports, friends - nothing is really the same.

This... and it breaks my heart to be honest. EVERYTHING is so impersonal now. Online. Connected.

 

[steph]

I really feel that we don't understand the actual impact social media has had on their lives.

I don't think it's an exaggeration to say that social media is tearing apart the fabric of civilized society .
It's especially hard on the younger generations who've never known a world without it.

Hate, anger and insecurities drive profits ; so that's what social media promotes.

As a parent, telling your kids, even from a very young age before they get a phone, about the dangers
of social media is as important as telling them not to take candy from strangers.

I lead by example ; I don't have a cell phone, and other than this news group, am not part of any social platform.

People (my kids mostly) think I'm crazy for not having a cell phone in 2025, but I think I'm probably saner that most. ;-)
(... and probably less stressed and anxious too .. )

/old man rant off

Steph

 

[Alpha-tron]

Sorry to hear about your teenage. Dam kids don't have a dam manual with them.

I wish I had a solution to your problem but all I got is search for professional help and see if the kid improves.

With all the crap that is floating around the internet it hard to prevent that stuff from being a bad influence on a young mind. A young mind can get addicted to way too many unhealthy things.

I hope your son will improve over time.

 

[ArcadeMaze]

I can't believe we're here. My daughter was born just after I started collecting. The first machines I ever picked up back in 2003/4 were a Ms. Pacman cabaret, a Rockola 470 jukebox, a Dr. Mario and a Bally Lost World pinball. When my daughter entered the world in October 2004, those machines were here to greet her. She's basically grown up alongside my hobby. Happy 21st birthday Nevaeh!

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Congrats Phetty! Heh, I feel old, my daughter turned 45 last month, and my grandson turned 19 and just graduated from high school.

 

[Phetishboy]

Congrats Phetty! Heh, I feel old, my daughter turned 45 last month, and my grandson turned 19 and just graduated from high school.

Wow. God, I hope I get grandkids. My daughter's already telling me she doesn't want kids. I'm hoping she changes her mind before she turns 30. My boys are only 14 and 16, so it could be a while before they start producing grandkids.

 

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[WadeLanham]

I really feel that we don't understand the actual impact social media has had on their lives. None of their experiences are like ours were. School, girls, cars, dances, parties, sports, friends - nothing is really the same.

Social media is a fucking cancer on society. That concept might not be widely accepted or understood yet, mostly because the world's biggest dbags are getting rich from it… but just give it time. This is how it will land eventually.

 

[WadeLanham]

Thanks buddy. Yeah I've got a 16-year-old right now as well. Unfortunately, we're going through a rough patch with him. He went from a 14 year-old kid who loved hanging out with his dad to a 16-year-old man-boy who can't stand me. He hates the arcade, won't help out with chores around the house, dropped out of all sports including football, basketball and golf. He begged for an E bike last year, and then got into two accidents with it and got in trouble with the law a couple of different times. Now his $1700 E bike sits there and he doesn't even ride it because it isn't cool or fast enough anymore. My wife tried taking it out Sunday night and the pedal fell off. Lately he's taken up cliff diving and riding his $200 scooter at the skate park. I hardly see him on the weekends, and he's usually gone most evenings as well. Even though we still have two boys at the house, it really does feel like we have only one. When he is home, he eats, looks at his phone and then goes to his bedroom. If you try to talk to him, he gets annoyed and walks away. I never thought this was gonna happen with one of my kids. It's kind of heartbreaking really, as we only have two more years with him. I was really hoping they were gonna be fun years, not suck years.

This is a phase that I think they sll go through. Give him space and support when he needs it and he'll come around eventually.