How to deal with Arcades and Girlfriend/Wife

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Hey all... curious what some of you have said to your wives/girlfriends about the number of games you have acquired and where they are in your house.

I've been on a buying spree (good deals mind you!) and my girlfriend who lives with me gave me a bunch of crap tonight saying our garage and one room in my basement is just lined with arcades. In my mind I'm thinking... "Ok yeah thats the most awesome thing ever!!!".. she thinks they are just in the way. She thinks they are cool when we have people over and everyone plays them... but next day they are taking up space.

Any advice/suggestions from any long time collectors? Ive been collecting since my dad bought me my first... but they have been in storage since I bought my first house... and of course I had to bring them all over!!!!
 
first thought that comes to mind is you should get a new girl. This said a more reasonable response might be you need to get a bigger house.

I am curious though as to what your girl thinks the games are "in the way"of?
 
1) Who owns the house?

2) Make a list of every room in the house that she has been the majority decorator and compare it to your garage and basement.

3) Make a local friend who's entire house is full of games, then take her over to visit. When you get home, she'll be much more tolerant of your "garage and one room in the basement"...
 
Size of the house is not the problem... I think you hit the nail on the head when you said the girl is...

1. I own the house

2. She is never in the basement or garage unless she is walking to car

3. Freaking fantastic idea!


Telling her to STFU doesnt help me... I do agree... but doesnt help...
 
Other than her concern with the possibility of me spending too much money, my wife has embraced my hobby with quite well, and to show my appreciation, she now owns MS. PAC and Dr. Mario. She is very proud of her machines, plays/shows them off all the time, and involving her makes her feel like a part of my hobby. Perhaps you could try and involve your GF as well. And if there aren't any games she likes, you can cut your losses now and tell her to get the hell out.
 
My lady is saying you should (next time it comes up) ask her what would you be doing with the space anyways....Not sure how they'll go over but there ya go from her. BTW she gets a little rolly of the eyes when I want to buy more as well... Its a hard one as it can keep coming up all the time and be a pain in the ass not to mention create a void between yall... It is funny how she likes them when yall are hosting folks and yet not any other time. hummmm Only when she looks good huh, other then that they suck. Hard one bro good luck.
 
You need to clearly define areas that are yours to do with as you see fit. Since the house is yours, you start with 100%.

I moved into my girlfriend's house about 4 years ago. Before that happened, we agreed that I would have full control over the garage and one of the bedrooms that I use for an office. The rest of the house she pretty much decides what goes where. This does not prevent her from trying to park in the garage, but it does keep her from winning that fight.

I think women have a need to control everything in a household, so you really need clearly defined boundaries to keep them from trying to control everything.
 
Yes agreed... in the beginning she doesnt care what I do with the garage or basement... and now its a big deal.. Im sure it is control... I need to set boundaries

Someone asked what she meant by "in the way"... I have no freaking idea. I do not get a full explanation just the rolling eyes and bitching....
 
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One thing that comes to mind is where you are at in collecting. You sound pretty new at it and new guys ( 1-5 years) tend to buy anything and everything they deem a good deal, multiples and even games that aren't good deals. She is seeing lots of games coming in and doing the math and figuring at that rate the house will be overwhelmed if she doesn't say anything.

My advice would be to back off and try and get to phase 2 of collecting sooner than most people do and really only buy what you really, really, want.

Before confronting her, ask yourself this. How many games can I fit at max capacity and how many do I have now. Then ask her how many SHE thinks is a reasonable amount. See where her head is at.
 
Dangit, I'm late to the meeting again, huh?

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One thing that comes to mind is where you are at in collecting. You sound pretty new at it and new guys ( 1-5 years) tend to buy anything and everything they deem a good deal, multiples and even games that aren't good deals. She is seeing lots of games coming in and doing the math and figuring at that rate the house will be overwhelmed if she doesn't say anything.

My advice would be to back off and try and get to phase 2 of collecting sooner than most people do and really only buy what you really, really, want.

Before confronting her, ask yourself this. How many games can I fit at max capacity and how many do I have now. Then ask her how many SHE thinks is a reasonable amount. See where her head is at.

This! I got my first game before I even met my wife, and she never really cared because it didn't seem to overrule everything in my house or me. I got my other machine and she was kinda surprised, and I knew before she brought it up. That she was concerned about space, the cost of these things, and will I possibly keep going with collecting more. But I had a talk with her of my intentions, and tuned her into my hobby and such over a 4 year time span.

Before I got my last cabinet, I buttered her up real nice with a few gifts here and there of things she wanted. Then busted the purchase of my last machine. (Hey you got something you wanted, and I got something I wanted.) Space, money was still not an issue, so it worked out. Oh and she even bought me a slot machine for Valentines day one year, another reason to keep her. ;)
 
My wife, who has lived with me in the same house for 17 years, will once in awhile say something about my games. Like I have too many and that I should sell some. I just tell her that I love her and that I would never, ever cheat on her and she knows it. I don't drink, smoke, or use drugs, but If she makes me choose between her and the games....... she probably won't like the answer. That's usually the end of it for a few years.

Actually she is very tolerant of my obsession and I'm tolerant of hers. That's the key to a lasting relationship. Putting up with all the stuff the other person dumps on you.
 
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