Tighe
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That totally sucks! I hope things work out for you for yours and the kids sakes.
Feels like I am gonna be out of the hobby for a while
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norton9478
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I haven't paid any attention to this thread because I don't participate in these types of threads. But I am currently in a similar boat.
But let me tell all you this.
If you have kids in your care (that are not yours or anybody Else's in the household), you can get them TANF.
It is called Child Only cash assistance. Even if you make a million dollars a year, you can get them this. I do not believe that there are any time limits on it (as opposed to adults that are limited to 2 years/5 total). If the kids are teenagers, they can even earn wages. This will not count against their TANF.
Income from other sources (Such as SSI and Dependent benefits) will count against it though.
Do you have court ordered custody? If so you can go to court and force the moms to turn over any documents and cards. It seems that the Medicaid people are being a bit obtuse.
Was there ever a court finding of neglect? that would help you immensely in getting everything transferred.
I was lucky enough to pull our charges out of foster care, so that department got us everything we needed.
You really can't withhold visitation in order to get compliance out of the moms. It's not fair to the kids either. But there isn't much wrong with using one to implicitly nudge the other.
If moms is claiming TANF funds on the kids. She has 10 days from the time she gives up the kids to inform them of her lifestyle change. If you think moms is cheating the system, you can inform on her.
But let me tell all you this.
If you have kids in your care (that are not yours or anybody Else's in the household), you can get them TANF.
It is called Child Only cash assistance. Even if you make a million dollars a year, you can get them this. I do not believe that there are any time limits on it (as opposed to adults that are limited to 2 years/5 total). If the kids are teenagers, they can even earn wages. This will not count against their TANF.
Income from other sources (Such as SSI and Dependent benefits) will count against it though.
Do you have court ordered custody? If so you can go to court and force the moms to turn over any documents and cards. It seems that the Medicaid people are being a bit obtuse.
Was there ever a court finding of neglect? that would help you immensely in getting everything transferred.
I was lucky enough to pull our charges out of foster care, so that department got us everything we needed.
You really can't withhold visitation in order to get compliance out of the moms. It's not fair to the kids either. But there isn't much wrong with using one to implicitly nudge the other.
If moms is claiming TANF funds on the kids. She has 10 days from the time she gives up the kids to inform them of her lifestyle change. If you think moms is cheating the system, you can inform on her.
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Umortal377
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hate bumping an old thread, but wanted to give a followup.
My wife had her finally court appearance on this yesterday. We have custody. The dad has visitation on the weekends with notice since he lives in another state. The mom has weekends as well, but has to be supervised by her mom. The dad and his mom can video chat on Monday and Tuesdays, and the mom can visit on Thursdays.
But now it seems like the dads parents (who are seperated) said they would file for custody. I dont think they will, but if they do, think it would be an uphill battle for them since they both live in other states and barely visit.
My wife was able to get the medical stuff changed to her.
The one thing I laughed at, they started garnishing the moms pay. They are taking 55%. She works at McDs so she was only making like 8 I bet before this. I dont really expect her to keep the job now that court is over.
My wife had her finally court appearance on this yesterday. We have custody. The dad has visitation on the weekends with notice since he lives in another state. The mom has weekends as well, but has to be supervised by her mom. The dad and his mom can video chat on Monday and Tuesdays, and the mom can visit on Thursdays.
But now it seems like the dads parents (who are seperated) said they would file for custody. I dont think they will, but if they do, think it would be an uphill battle for them since they both live in other states and barely visit.
My wife was able to get the medical stuff changed to her.
The one thing I laughed at, they started garnishing the moms pay. They are taking 55%. She works at McDs so she was only making like 8 I bet before this. I dont really expect her to keep the job now that court is over.
copious
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Glad things are coming to a close. I would fret the 'other' people just enjoy your family and the joy you'll bring to that childs heart.
Start by buying an arcade game to celebrate.
Start by buying an arcade game to celebrate.
RedWolfJC
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You might want to check your local child support laws, I know that here, if the NC Parent quits their job, they won't change the amount of support that they owe, and in some cases the judge can pretty much force the NC parent to get a job. Too bad she's only doing a McDonalds job, though I suppose 55% of crap wages is still something. That could be the mom's wakeup call though to do something with her life. I can't imagine someone being able to survive on 100% of a McD's salary, let alone 45%
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Umortal377
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We actually are not getting the money directly. My wife gets TANF. She gets the money regardless. The parents have to pay it back regardless. Even if she doesnt have a job, she has a minimum she has to pay them. She has been arrested for being behind before on our oldest. So whether or not she has a job, we still get money. Now if she gets a better job, we may be able to get more.
I dont feel sorry for her. She lives with her mom and drives her moms van since June. So she had no bills. She was suppose to be saving up for her own place and to fix her van. They didnt start garnishing her wages till end of November. Now she says she cant afford to do anything. So all that money she was suppose to be saving she was spending. So I have no sympathy for her.
