Does your sister - in - law have a bf, husband, significant other?
Feels like I am gonna be out of the hobby for a while
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She has a husband who she kicked out. I would say while they were together, he did most of the work around the house, plus worked. When he stood up for himself, she kicked him out. Now he is in NC and from what I can see, he hasnt been doing anything for the kids.
My wife thinks this will end up civil. I told her theres no way this is going to go down nicely. I told her dont worry about her sister and do what is needed for the kids. I told her once we get them, we should go for child support on both of them. If they arent fit to raise them, they can help support them financially at least. Granted neither work, but if they ever get a real job, they will get money taken away.
That's really admirable dude. Good luck!
It would totally suck having to sell your games over this. I can't say I wouldn't do the same but if I had to sell assets for something like this, pissed wouldn't be the word.
It would totally suck having to sell your games over this. I can't say I wouldn't do the same but if I had to sell assets for something like this, pissed wouldn't be the word.
punisher7700
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I nearly had to do the same some years ago and know this is very difficult. You are doing something extremely wonderful for those children and I wish you nothing but the best.
I am glad there are still people left in the world that are good people like you, and 'step up to the plate' as another said.
I see the games as something these new kids would enjoy, so hang on to as much of them as you can, and good luck with this new 'project cab...'
I see the games as something these new kids would enjoy, so hang on to as much of them as you can, and good luck with this new 'project cab...'
RedWolfJC
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When you go to court for custody, make a point of mentioning this... Have the attorney treat it as an addiction (especially if you have information on the number of hours she plays, how high of a ranking she has etc)
Best of luck, you're doing the right thing, giving those kids a future.
bravo bravo!
i knew a guy finally getiing ahead has a few kids of his own finally wants to get this new shleby stang or somehting, he doing goood this would be ab ig deal his wifey ok's is, then something like this happenned. m aksing where his new stang was is is when he told me
i knew a guy finally getiing ahead has a few kids of his own finally wants to get this new shleby stang or somehting, he doing goood this would be ab ig deal his wifey ok's is, then something like this happenned. m aksing where his new stang was is is when he told me
+1.
I hate to make assumptions, but the type of behavior he's describing sounds like the patterns of a person that uses drugs. Horrible stereotype, but possible...?
She might even just be hooked on BOOST.
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+1.
I hate to make assumptions, but the type of behavior he's describing sounds like the patterns of a person that uses drugs. Horrible stereotype, but possible...?
I've heard some pretty convincing arguments on the validity of Video game addiction (Hell there's even a rehab facility for it http://www.video-game-addiction.org/)... I don't know if I'm sold on it yet, I think we create a lot of "diseases" where there are just people who don't have self control (maybe that in itself is a disease?)
Either way, there's enough out there to make it a convincing argument in court. If you take out in his post above the words "Plays Call Of Duty" and replace with "Drinks Vodka" or "Smokes Crack" there would be no questioning that it was an addiction issue... Of course I'm not saying that if someone took her xbox away that she would become the model parent, but I would think bringing up game addiction, it would sure help his custody case.
And you never know, the video game thing may be just a part of another addiction...
Dunno, we could compare her house with Noice's
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You are absolutely doing the right thing! My prayers go out to you and your wife and family.
But I wouldn't sell all the games unless I needed the $ or they were really in the way, because there will probably come a day when the kids will enjoy them. I can certainly see not adding any during this time though.
Best of luck to you and yours!
But I wouldn't sell all the games unless I needed the $ or they were really in the way, because there will probably come a day when the kids will enjoy them. I can certainly see not adding any during this time though.
Best of luck to you and yours!
Wundercade
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Wow, tough call there.
You have two of your own that you are undoubtedly concerned about regarding bad influence and exposure to the dysfunction. But you are stepping up anyway, good for you. I hope it does work out for you, but you really have to make sure that if the court gives you custody....it's known that the mom cannot interfere and be a constant drag on progress in you trying to turn things around for these kids.
Are you prepared to cut the mother completely out of these kids' live for their own good, and will they hate you for that later? Man, what a tough call, brother. You have my deepest respect and God speed to you all.
You have two of your own that you are undoubtedly concerned about regarding bad influence and exposure to the dysfunction. But you are stepping up anyway, good for you. I hope it does work out for you, but you really have to make sure that if the court gives you custody....it's known that the mom cannot interfere and be a constant drag on progress in you trying to turn things around for these kids.
Are you prepared to cut the mother completely out of these kids' live for their own good, and will they hate you for that later? Man, what a tough call, brother. You have my deepest respect and God speed to you all.
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Well, I am gonna call the food stamp place to see if she is breaking the rules or not today. Since she still has custody, not sure if she is technically breaking the law or not.
LyonsArcade
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Good for you man! There's plenty of arcade games around, those kids only have you guys that are going to take care of them, though. Your much better off taking that responsibility on. You guys can do it, don't sweat it! Also after everything slows down a bit you'll probably be able to get a few games snuck back in there, they come up cheap enough from time to time. Good luck!
tigerstyle
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I'm an avid call of duty player.
The game has an online worldwide ranking system that tracks down everytime. Number of kills, victories, deaths.. But also game played and time spend online..! If you can get her her xbox username, it can be looked up easily and used against her. I've seen users with dozens of days of gameplay time clocked in, and i'm sure there are worst cases.
mudmantim
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Take this time to break all ties to the arcade world...save yourself a ton of future game headache and run while you have the chance.
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Thats much easier said then done. lol
Stuffmonger
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Try to get the court to get your sister's tubes tied. Last thing you need is for her to pop out another one, so that it gets taken away right away. Honestly, I'd say it should be a rule where if you're on welfare, and have a kid while on welfare, you should be sterilized. All these people having as many kids as possible to get more money from the government really irks me. I also have family that abuses the welfare system, and in California, it's not hard to do. Hell, welfare wasn't even supposed to be a lasting program when it was first made. It was just a system to help people (especially elderly people) out of the great depression, and back onto their feet.
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Her tubes are now tied. She got them done after she had the twins. But if she hadnt, I would expect her to have more.
I called Social Services, she is legally able to keep the food stamps, barely. She went and bought groceries for us one time while we had them, about 100 bucks worth.
SS said that as long as she is providing food for the children, she gets to keep food stamps. So if she doesnt help us out the kids again, I can call back and tell them she hasnt been giving them food. She doesnt take them to eat, fix them food, anything. Me and my wife do all of that. But since she doesnt have the kids, any other services they offer her sound like they get shut off. They are looking into it.
LyonsArcade
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I had family members get welfare (and that's what it is and should be called), and went with one once to see what's up. Biggest scam ever. They say you have to be looking for a job, but everybody just goes in there and blows smoke at them and gets their check. It's all just a bunch of bureacratic b.s. where if you fill out the right paperwork, you keep getting your money. Their job becomes visiting the welfare office.
SuperSprint
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Being sorry is easy. Being a stand up person is tough. When tired, rest easy in the fact that you are a good man doing good things.
